...but likely will, anyway.
This should be the rant of a friend of mine, not one of mine, necessarily. Yet it makes me so sad and angry on her behalf it needs to come out.
She has had symptoms for years, and has been stonewalled by everyone in her family. "No, our family has no problems!" they loudly proclaim.
As usual, they doth protest too much.
It was so ingrained to lie to each succeeding generation as symptoms got worse that even though her grandmother has been dead for 3 years, her father still lies on order from grannie, who absolutely would not entertain the idea in any way, shape, or form that anything could be inherited in their family.
Now, my friend has genetic proof, and they can't protest any more, it's obviously connected through that side of the family.
But what she had to go through to get there is awful.
It's awful enough to have symptoms, it's awful enough to have to deal with now deciding, with her husband, whether or not they should have children (she thinks probably not), but to have to deal with years and years of family lies and stonewalling and lack of sympathy is cruelty on top of cruelty.
It's not the first person i've known to have this happen, either. In fact, i can think of two others right off hand. The first family i knew of it was more from ignorance -- they didn't know the signs meant succeeding generations might have a disease, it caused no trouble in the people who had it that they would think to mention. Cafe-au-lait spots can mean a tumor disease in a succeeding generation? Not an idea of it, and by the time anyone realized the connection, there wasn't much that could be done.
The second was more nefarious, lying to a child about where he got the surgery scar so that no one would suspect he ever had a problem. A problem that his children and grandchildren suffered the brunt of, because his mother refused to admit anything like that could happen in her family. She went so far as to blame what her daughter-in-law, the mother of one grandchild, did while pregnant for an obviously inherited condition.
Now this, and my blood boils for my friend who could have been saved a lot of mental anguish and years of searching for answers, and could have had treatment sooner.
There is no shame in the fact that your family might have an inherited disease. It happens. This is not the dark ages where we believe it's a curse or a judgment on the family.
Your family is not "less" because of this. You are not defective. You simply have a genetic flaw, as do we all.
Hiding doesn't take it away, and does more damage than good.
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Today in History
Roman military commander Avitus is proclaimed emperor of the Western Roman Empire, 455
Henry VIII annuls his marriage to Anne of Cleves (his 4th wife), 1540
In Versailles, the National Assembly reconstitutes itself as the National Constituent Assembly and begins preparations for a French constitution, 1789
The Act Against Slavery is passed in Upper Canada and the importation of slaves into Lower Canada is prohibited, 1793
The 14th Amendment to the United States Constitution is ratified guaranteeing African Americans full citizenship and all persons in the United States due process of law, 1868
In Provident Hospital on Chicago’s South Side, black surgeon Dr. Daniel Hale Williams performed the first successful open-heart surgery, 1893
Queen Victoria gives royal assent to an Act creating the Commonwealth of Australia thus uniting separate colonies on the continent under one federal government, 1900
Johnny Weissmuller swims the 100 meters freestyle in 58.6 seconds breaking the world swimming record and the 'minute barrier', 1922
The Russell-Einstein Manifesto is released by Bertrand Russell in London, 1955
In a seminal moment for pop art, Andy Warhol's Campbell's Soup Cans exhibition opens at the Ferus Gallery in Los Angeles, 1962
Margaret Thatcher begins her second term as British prime minster, 1982
South Africa is readmitted into the Olympic movement after 30 years of exclusion, 1991
The African Union is established in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, 2002
South Sudan gains independence and secedes from Sudan, 2011